I find it frustrating. There are times when I firmly believe that the situation is smooth sailing and all is good again, and there are times when I am left baffled and emotionally disconnected. I feel as if I deserve most of the credit for the effort in rebuilding and maintaining the friendship. It's almost as if she doesn't care as much as I do. She has assured me otherwise, but how can I take her words with confidence when there are times I feel as if I am ignored and even excluded?
Treating everyone the same is a bold statement. Different people in your life inevitably receive different levels of attention and care. There are closer friends and there are convenient friends. This is the ugly truth. If you say that you can't treat someone differently than others, then you are simply lying to yourself and avoiding the problem. There are friends that you can confide in better than others. There are friends that you can have more fun with than others. There are friends who understand you better than others. If you end up treating everyone with the same level of friendship, would that not be false treatment?
I feel like what is missing from last year's friendship is the key ingredient to what made it so strong. Can you believe it? I miss it and I feel like it is not coming back no matter how much I sprint for it.
That is just me. I might be wrong. I might be very emotionally unbalanced, but I do know that being selective and exclusive is not the way to be involved and to walk outside of the comfort zone. That isn't growing. That is simply playing it safe in your own field and keeping yourself secretive. There is not point telling people you want to grow if all you are to do is stay the same and keep yourself within your little groups and select certain people to interact with.
I am simply returning a bit of your own medicine to taste.
I would normally write this kind of post in my own journal blog, but maybe people have different opinions to share.
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I want to be treated differently. Wouldn't you? After all, we're all unique individuals who have our own quirks, needs and dreams. I'm not like everyone else and neither are you.
ReplyDeleteGirls are the same way but then hormones gets in the way.
Just be sure that when you're giving attention to certain indivdiuals, you don't offend or cause tension with others. If you find yourself in that trap, it's not about treating everyone equally, it's simply treating everyone with respect.
Example: I'm married and have a job so obviously I ain't going to spend as much time with my brothers in Christ. This is not out of disrespect but out of commitment. Fortunately, this is mutually understood and people respect that.
Can people respect you for what/who you are focusing on? I hope so!
But if it's about one person who you believe is not reciprocating as much as you give... then she is not worth pursuing... or just as applicable, the timing is off. She is more concerned about something else that God is putting on her heart. You'll have to learn how to respect that or the pain just gets worse and worse. Patience or focus on someone who is willing to reciprocate more so. Those are your two options.
Praying for ya, bro.